Yes, I am very familiar with “kidding” and “joking” and such. I do believe the poster thought that he was doing just that. But the fact remains, I didn’t find it funny. I found it in poor taste.
I don’t know what is in their mind. I don’t know why they would insult anyone. I don’t know them.
There does not have to be intent to be rude. If you get a haircut and I see it and go, “What did you do to your hair?!?” that is rude, even if I do not mean it that way, even if I really just want to know what that color is called so I can go get it done myself.
I don’t have to be projecting to see rudeness – even unintentional rudeness – in someone else and call it out.
You ignore societal references. I asked you if any of those comments sounded familiar. Did they? Have you truly never heard anyone use a fast food job as an insult? Because I have heard it used that way, many times.
It should not be. An honest job is an honest job. But the fact remains, many people do indeed use it as a form of insult. Being female isn’t an insult, either, and yet we hear, “You throw like a girl!” Is that not an insult?
Well, good thing I don’t think working a fast food job is anything to be ashamed about, nor do I think it should ever be used as an insult. However, facts are facts, and some people do use it as such.
I don’t think they meant to insult them. But once again, intention is only part of the equation.
Nope. And what makes you think I am “outraged?” That is a very strong word. Using my context clues, I take this to mean you think I am sitting here, red in the face, shouting about how wrong you are? Nope. I found a remark rude. I said so. I calmly explained why. and for some reason, now am being psychoanalyzed.
Yes, we will. Besides, it is time to close up shop and go home. Hope you have a good night. And though we may not agree, I do appreciate the somewhat civil discussion.